Ideas for the Adventurous Dates
When I started having a more active dating life in New York City, I ended up bringing a lot of my dates to the same place for their very first dates, and literally, every single girl that I’ve brought on these dates wanted to see me again, so today I want to share a little of exactly what I did, where I went, and the mindset I had on these dates in the hopes that you can get some inspiration and apply some of this stuff to your own dating life as well.
Okay, so there are a few things that I did, where I went, and the mindset I had on these dates. I told my date to meet me at the train station in the early afternoon. I’ll make sure to tell them not to eat, and you’ll see why in a second. When they arrive, we start walking to the park together, which is not too far away. It’s like a ten-minute walk. At this point in time, I’ll say something along the lines of “hey date name, let’s make a bet I’ll race you and the loser buys lunch. I’m so confident that I’m going to win that I’ll even give you a five-second no no no 10-second head start and every time I’ve challenged one of my dates to this little competition.” right out of the gate.
I want to show them this part of my personality because if they aren’t into it, then chances are we’re not going to have a good relationship. Down the line, I don’t want to be wasting my time with someone who’s not compatible with me, and that’s the mentality you need to have when it comes to dating.
If she’s not compatible with you, it’s totally fine. There are more fish in the sea, but to be honest, I don’t think I’ve ever been on a date with a girl who didn’t like to play along. I think games and challenges are almost universally liked by just about everyone right. There’s a reason why everyone says that they want to feel like a kid again. When you’re a kid, you don’t have any worries in the world and all you do is run around playing games.
It’s fun. It’s way better than being an adult. That’s for sure. So when you’re able to bring back that same sort of fun energy from those good old days, when you’re on a date with someone, you become a very memorable person. So anyways, we race. Sometimes they do in fact win. Sometimes they lose. I bring them to the pizza place. The loser buys a couple of slices and that’s lunch. I never take my dates out to fancy restaurants for the first date.
I believe it would be better to save that for a special occasion later down the road if we do end up dating for a longer period of time, so I always end up taking them to more casual places like a pizza place or a fast food joint like Taco Bell instead of a restaurant that serves a more elaborate meal.
Okay, so we sit down, eat the pizza quickly while chatting a little bit, and then once we’re done, we start walking to our next destination, which is the park, and it’s only about two minutes away, and as we walk into the park, I started telling stories now. I spent many years hanging out in this park after school with my classmates when I was a kid, so I do have a bunch of crazy stories, and as I mentioned before, this is an extremely good thing because you want to be sharing them.
You want to make your life seem exciting and adventurous. People are attracted to those traits. It’s just human nature, so I’ll tell you one of my stories right now. At the entrance of this park are a couple of trash cans that they put fallen leaves into whenever fall comes around, so one day after school when we were all hanging out, a friend of mine decided to light one of the trash cans that was filled with leaves on fire, and it was a very impressive fire.
I had never seen a fire so big before so we all gather around to watch this giant metal can burn and that’s when I’m not even kidding out of nowhere what looked like a blind man walking his dog stopped right next to us and pulled out a badge he was an undercover cop and he yelled at us what the hell are you kids doing are you stupid get away from that fire right just leave the trashcan alone don’t touch it don’t touch it let the fire burn out on its own.
I guess from his perspective the situation was contained to just the trashcan I mean to be fair in the moment he was right the fire was getting smaller and it did seem like it was going to die out on its own so after scolding us a bit more he left but we decided to stay there and watch the fire burn out and that’s when all of a sudden it became very windy and an intense gust of wind blew by and picked up the flames and spread it onto the dry patches of grass around the trashcan and next thing you know there were a handful of little fires starting and growing all around us.
It was a crazy scene I mean we could have honestly burned this entire park down if we didn’t do anything so we freaked out and all of the kids in our group took off our hoodies and we were like hitting the flames and trying to stomp them out with our shoes because we were trying to prevent this thing from spreading we had to save the park but the main problem was that the trashcan was still on fire and it was still windy as hell if we didn’t get rid of it new flames would just continue to be picked up by the wind and spread so three of us picked up the trash can and we ran across the street and we chucked the entire thing into the East River and that’s the story of the time we saved this entire park.
I guess you could say we’re local heroes and these are the types of stories that I would tell on a first date whenever I’m telling one of these stories I’m reenacting the entire scene I’m pretending to be the blind cop walking the dog I’m stopping imaginary flames out on the floor I’m getting really into it and the whole time my date is laughing her ass off because it’s a bizarre and interesting story and by the time I finished telling my tale, we were pretty deep into the park and we got to the second big event that I have planned for today but before I tell you what that is, I want to quickly ask you for some help.
By the time I finished telling my story, we were pretty far into the park, and we got to the second big event that I had planned for today, We’re approaching the bridge. And that’s when I tell my dates to follow me up the hill. I don’t tell them what we’re about to do because the moment we reach the ledge, they automatically realize what we’re about to do and they will. See, if you walk along this ledge, you will eventually get to a point where you are approximately 15 feet above the ground.
The ledge is also slanted at something like a 25 degree angle, so it feels like you could slide off very easily. If you fall at this height, you are probably not going to die, but it will definitely mess up your legs, so I always tell my date to “come on, come on, it’s safe.” Trust me, I used to do this all the time. You’re not going to fall.
This brings us to the final significant event of the day. When I was a kid, we would often climb over the railing down onto the bank of this river. You can actually climb over the railing down onto the bank of this river. However, the area is extremely polluted; there is trash everywhere; broken wooden planks with rusty nails scattered all over the place; stinky seaweed; and to top all of that off, who knows what else.
Okay, so throughout the day I’m making sure to touch my date in very casual ways, such as a tap on the shoulder, a high-five, or even having our thighs touch when we’re sitting on the ledge. This way, they will start to feel more comfortable with the idea of touching you.
However, when we’re down on the bank of the river and I’m teaching them how to skip rocks, I make sure to step it up a bit just to show them that, hey, I like you. There’s a story about the time we went into the sewers further down the bank, and we ran into some homeless people in the actual sewer system.
There’s a story about the time one of our friends decided to swim in the river, and a giant cargo ship came by, and it almost hit him, and he almost died. There’s even a ghost story from over a hundred years ago about a ship that caught fire in this very river, and where hundreds of people died.